WHY You Resist
I’ve been a bit curious about resistance lately. In my mind, resistance is that feeling I get of knowing I SHOULD do something, but really don’t want to, even though I know that it will have a positive result on my mind, business and health.
Hip openers in yoga, anyone?
I did a bit of a poll on some of the Facebook groups that I belong to with the goal of finding out what things we tend to resist in our businesses. I got some great answers – here’s just a smattering:
- Networking events and meeting new people
- Finishing an elevator pitch
- Accounting (Me too!)
- Crafting a business plan
- Contacting “cold” leads
- Administrative work – converting files, blogging
- Work in general because of pressure from family and friends
- Asking for the sale directly
There’s not one of those things that wouldn’t be good for your business. But, WHY we resist – well, that’s another question entirely. . .
I think it is fear.
I don’t mean the kind of fear that causes you to jump when you see a spider, or the kind of fear that helps you keep your eyes on the road when you are driving so you don’t get into an accident. I believe it is the kind of fear that keeps you doing what you are comfortable doing day in and day out.
That comfort zone just might be stalling your business and your life.
The reality is that we ALL do the things that make us feel comfortable. We gravitate towards those things and look forward to those things. We are attracted what we have built as our own comfort zone because we are afraid that what we REALLY want, we simply can’t have. We tell ourselves that the thing that has to be done is too hard, or it will take too much time, or that we don’t have the talent/knowledge/skills to do what needs to get done.
Is that what you really believe? If you do, then you might be cheating yourself out of the life and business that you want.
WHY you are resisting is one thing – what to do about it is another. Here’s some stuff to think about:
- You can break the tasks you are resistant to doing into more palatable pieces. I hate prepping stuff for my accountant. Ugh. Yuck. But, I know I have to do it. So, I get out a timer and literally put ten minutes on it and do a session each day. It doesn’t make the work less horrible, but it does make it doable.
- Lower your expectations. Depending on your level of resistance, you may have to lower your expectations. Take a networking event, for instance. If you really want to get over your resistance toward going, lower your expectations. You can make the goal to show up and stay for 20 minutes. You may not talk to anyone, but you did show up! Or, maybe your goal is to talk to three people and as soon as that is done, you can leave. By lowering your expectations, you create forward momentum.
- Leverage your confidence in other areas. I know two people who do those ultra-marathons – you know, those 100 mile runs in 24 hours, type of things. (A quick aside – not me!!) Anyway, if you ask these guys, the resistance they have defeated by doing those runs – even imperfectly – has bled off in other areas of their life. You may not like calling cold prospects, but if you have had a personal best in another area of your life, you may find that you are simply not as resistant to moving forward.
We all have resistance. The question is whether you will allow it to impact your business and your daily life. How about you?
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